Break ups, they break it off

Break ups are usually caused by arguments or upsetting situations.  The break up is handled differently by everybody.  Some people keep it to themselves and don’t talk about.  Others need to vent and get out.  It is important to remember that you once loved this person and not to lose yourself in the break up.  If you once truly cared about this person, don’t go around talking bad about them.  There are many ways to ease the pain.  You can talk with friends; talk with your parents or someone you trust.  It is important not to keep things bottled up because it will just make it worst.  If you spent a lot of time with this person, you will feel empty, bored, like you have no friends and nothing to do.  That’s why it is important to surround yourself with friends who care about you and make sure to have plans to do things together.  It is easier sometimes to get over them quickly by getting rid of the things that remind you of them such as gifts, pictures or clothes.  Once the initial shock is over, you’ll feel better and the pain will slowly go away.  There is no way of making it go away faster that is why it is important to deal with the pain and move on when you feel ready.

Long Distance

Relationships become long distance relationship when on partner moves away from the other.  The reasons for the move can be due to parents relocating due to a new job, going away to college or university, or for training.  Everybody deals differently with the separation.  Some people become closer and their relationship stronger but most often one or both partners can’t handle the separation.  They miss each other too much; one may get jealous and worry that the other partner will cheat on them.  If the separation happens before the relationship is serious, this will make it difficult to remain together.  They say distance makes the heart grow fonder which means that you miss each other so much that when you see each other you fall in love all over again.  In these days it is easier to stay connected with all the technology.  Even though you are separated, you can see each other every day through technology such as Skype, Facebook and cell phones.  It is important to make sure you plan dates and get together even if it over the internet.  Make sure that the time spent together is quality time and try not to fight or argue.  To make the relationship work, it is important to stay honest and trust each other.  Avoid being jealous if your partner makes new friends and has fun with them.

Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a day that all couples show their love for each other.  It’s also a day where new love begins and some blossom.  However for some people it is a very lonely day.  These are the people that have recently lost a love one or broke up with their partner.   There are many things to do on Valentine’s Day such as going to the movies, going out for dinner, for a walk or just spending time together.  Some people get each other small gifts; others make the gifts expensive and large.  Gifts can range from a stuffed animal, chocolate, flowers or even jewelry.  There are also many different ways to ask someone to be your valentine.  A person can decide to ask someone to be their valentine by asking them out, giving them hints, putting it right out there or the traditional way by giving them a Valentine card.  Sometimes when the person you like does not ask you to be their valentine, it can make you very sad.  To avoid being alone on Valentine’s Day make sure to get together with friends and have a good time. In my opinion, I think that Valentine’s Day is overrated and people should be showing their love for each other every day.  It shouldn’t be left up to oneday of the year. 

Taking it to the next level

What does this mean?  When you are good friends with someone from the opposite sex and things are going well, do you take it to the next level?  What if they don’t feel the same as you do, will it make it weird between each other?  What if that’s what they want but you don’t feel the same, do you hurt their feelings by being honest or do you pretend you feel the same and try it out?  These are all questions you must consider before taking it to the next level.  Most often when two people are good friends they have a better chance that it can move on. With that being said it is very important to keep the lines of communication open and be honest with each other.  People who have very trusting and honest relationship usually last and often that relationship does begin as a friendship.  Being friends first allows the two people involve being themselves without the pressure of trying to impress the other. There is nothing to lose because your heart is not invested the way it is when you are in love or start going out with someone. 

Planning a second...

You had the time of your life in your first hangout/date. You learnt little more about your crush and he/she seems more interested in you. Now you should be thinking about planning a second hangout/date. All though they are do’s and don’ts you need to watch out for on a second hangout/date.

You can proceed with the second hangout/date only if you’re truly interested in the other person. Look out for sings that your crush is as interested as you are. This includes if your crush answers your phones calls or texts and shows interest when you talk about meeting up again. Planning a second hangout/date shouldn’t be a problem. When you’re on your second hangout/date try to open up a bit more and try to have more fun around with your crush. Making your crush laugh always works and breaks the ice more easily. Try telling funny stories about your life and take your relationship to the next level.

Try to do something different for your second hangout/date. If you went for a dinner in your first hangout/date, go for a walk or drive around town for your second. Remember, to try doing something different every time that way it doesn’t get boring for your crush or you. Going to a café wouldn’t be a bad option either. The best thing about coffee shops is that you can sit for long hours over a cup of coffee, without the staff bothering you. It is the best way for your crush and you to get to know each other better. Always remember to never indulge in anything that looks unnatural or forced. Be comfortable and your date would automatically be comfortable.  Make sure you are relaxed and stress-free. Remember, it is now that the two of you would establish whether or not you wish to continue the relationship or not. Being relaxed would allow you to think freely and have open hearted conversation.  

Lastly, enjoy your hangout/date to the fullest. It is only when you enjoy the time spend with your crush that you miss your crush and want to meet them again. Remember, no date is better than a boring date!!! So just feel free and enjoy - who knows both of you could click together!

Making plans with the person you like.

Everyone wants to hangout with their crush but you don't want it getting awkward. To make sure that it doesn't get awkward, I would suggest to try making plans with a small group of friends and invite your crush along. Make sure it’s something that they would like to do and that they would get along with the others. Ensure the group is a small group of four to six people.  This will make sure that you won't get lost in the crowd or lose opportunities to talk to your crush. If all goes well, your crush would enjoy themselves enough to do it again or even decide to go on a date with you.  Your first date should probably involve going to the movies or buy tickets to a major sporting event such as football, baseball or basketball.  You could also go to a concert that your crush would like to go to (If you really want to impress your crush, get tickets to a popular sold-out event).  Other ideas would be to go bowling or you can attend a festival that's in town.  How you shoud behave on the first date is to always be yourself.  The number one thing to do is be yourself, don't pretent to be someone else.  Try to be a good listener make sure to answer honestly if asked a question. Also make sure to always to smile, be happy and mostly have fun. These suggestions are ways to make sure to have a good time with your crush. Good luck!!!

Being friends with the one you like.

If you like someone and you want to ask them out, try being their friend first.  If you've never talk to them in your life, talking to them will help you to get to know them better and become friends. Starting a conversation with someone you like is very easy, but it might seem like it's the hardest thing in the world. To start a conversation with them is the same way you would start a conversation with one of your friends.  Start by saying ''Hey'', ''What's up?'' or if you've never met them before you walk over to them with a smile on your face and say ''Hi my name is ..., what's yours?'  This will give them a name to put to your face and give them something to remember and think about. Also if they remember your name and face, it will make it easier for them to approach you and start a conversation. But if they don't come talk to you, you can always go talk to them without appearing desperate to talk to them. You want to leave them with the impression that you just want a new friend. If you have classes with the person you like, try sitting next to him in class and talk to them. When a project is assigned try being their partner which will give you more opportunity to talk and get to know each other.  In the end, you will get to know each other better, maybe gain a new friend and possibly become more than friends.