Balancing friends and a relationship

When the person you are dating or seeing is not from the same group of friends with which you hang out, it is important to try and make it easy for everyone to get along.  You can make this happen by introducing them, making them comfortable with each other and planning get together that everyone will enjoy.  If your friends and partner do not get along, it puts you in a position where you have to choose between one or the other.  This will put stress on both relationships.  You will feel very uncomfortable when everyone is together.  In order to make it work, you’ll need to make sure that whoever you didn’t choose to spend time with understand and doesn’t take it personal.  You must divide your time equally.  No matter who you choose, someone will always get hurt and this will make you resent it. However if your friends and partner love you, they will try and get along so that you don’t have to make a choice.  On the other hand if everyone does get along and something happens between you and your partner, your friends will be the ones to make the choice.  But no matter what it is a risk you have to take because it will great if your partner and friends all get along.

Break ups, you break it off

There are many reasons why you would want to break up with your partner or love one.  The reason could be they upset you by cheating on you or lying to you.  Also you may not feel the same as you felt when you first started dating.  You feel more like they’re a friend than a partner.  Before breaking up with them you should ask yourself, what they did that makes you feel like you want to break up.  Is it worth going through the pain?  How will you make the other person feel? Will it be easy to do? Can you get past what they have done and forgive them?  If you can’t then it is not fair to either of you to stay in the relationship.  If you decide to go ahead and break up, you should tell them gently, in a private place and expect a reaction.  Especially if they don’t have a clue what you are about to say.  Try hard to ensure that the relationship ends on good terms.  Makes sure to be honest and considerate and not make your partner feel like they are worthless.  Try to make them understand your reasons and hopefully you can walk away still caring about each other.

Break ups, they break it off

Break ups are usually caused by arguments or upsetting situations.  The break up is handled differently by everybody.  Some people keep it to themselves and don’t talk about.  Others need to vent and get out.  It is important to remember that you once loved this person and not to lose yourself in the break up.  If you once truly cared about this person, don’t go around talking bad about them.  There are many ways to ease the pain.  You can talk with friends; talk with your parents or someone you trust.  It is important not to keep things bottled up because it will just make it worst.  If you spent a lot of time with this person, you will feel empty, bored, like you have no friends and nothing to do.  That’s why it is important to surround yourself with friends who care about you and make sure to have plans to do things together.  It is easier sometimes to get over them quickly by getting rid of the things that remind you of them such as gifts, pictures or clothes.  Once the initial shock is over, you’ll feel better and the pain will slowly go away.  There is no way of making it go away faster that is why it is important to deal with the pain and move on when you feel ready.

Long Distance

Relationships become long distance relationship when on partner moves away from the other.  The reasons for the move can be due to parents relocating due to a new job, going away to college or university, or for training.  Everybody deals differently with the separation.  Some people become closer and their relationship stronger but most often one or both partners can’t handle the separation.  They miss each other too much; one may get jealous and worry that the other partner will cheat on them.  If the separation happens before the relationship is serious, this will make it difficult to remain together.  They say distance makes the heart grow fonder which means that you miss each other so much that when you see each other you fall in love all over again.  In these days it is easier to stay connected with all the technology.  Even though you are separated, you can see each other every day through technology such as Skype, Facebook and cell phones.  It is important to make sure you plan dates and get together even if it over the internet.  Make sure that the time spent together is quality time and try not to fight or argue.  To make the relationship work, it is important to stay honest and trust each other.  Avoid being jealous if your partner makes new friends and has fun with them.

Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a day that all couples show their love for each other.  It’s also a day where new love begins and some blossom.  However for some people it is a very lonely day.  These are the people that have recently lost a love one or broke up with their partner.   There are many things to do on Valentine’s Day such as going to the movies, going out for dinner, for a walk or just spending time together.  Some people get each other small gifts; others make the gifts expensive and large.  Gifts can range from a stuffed animal, chocolate, flowers or even jewelry.  There are also many different ways to ask someone to be your valentine.  A person can decide to ask someone to be their valentine by asking them out, giving them hints, putting it right out there or the traditional way by giving them a Valentine card.  Sometimes when the person you like does not ask you to be their valentine, it can make you very sad.  To avoid being alone on Valentine’s Day make sure to get together with friends and have a good time. In my opinion, I think that Valentine’s Day is overrated and people should be showing their love for each other every day.  It shouldn’t be left up to oneday of the year. 

Taking it to the next level

What does this mean?  When you are good friends with someone from the opposite sex and things are going well, do you take it to the next level?  What if they don’t feel the same as you do, will it make it weird between each other?  What if that’s what they want but you don’t feel the same, do you hurt their feelings by being honest or do you pretend you feel the same and try it out?  These are all questions you must consider before taking it to the next level.  Most often when two people are good friends they have a better chance that it can move on. With that being said it is very important to keep the lines of communication open and be honest with each other.  People who have very trusting and honest relationship usually last and often that relationship does begin as a friendship.  Being friends first allows the two people involve being themselves without the pressure of trying to impress the other. There is nothing to lose because your heart is not invested the way it is when you are in love or start going out with someone. 

Planning a second...

You had the time of your life in your first hangout/date. You learnt little more about your crush and he/she seems more interested in you. Now you should be thinking about planning a second hangout/date. All though they are do’s and don’ts you need to watch out for on a second hangout/date.

You can proceed with the second hangout/date only if you’re truly interested in the other person. Look out for sings that your crush is as interested as you are. This includes if your crush answers your phones calls or texts and shows interest when you talk about meeting up again. Planning a second hangout/date shouldn’t be a problem. When you’re on your second hangout/date try to open up a bit more and try to have more fun around with your crush. Making your crush laugh always works and breaks the ice more easily. Try telling funny stories about your life and take your relationship to the next level.

Try to do something different for your second hangout/date. If you went for a dinner in your first hangout/date, go for a walk or drive around town for your second. Remember, to try doing something different every time that way it doesn’t get boring for your crush or you. Going to a café wouldn’t be a bad option either. The best thing about coffee shops is that you can sit for long hours over a cup of coffee, without the staff bothering you. It is the best way for your crush and you to get to know each other better. Always remember to never indulge in anything that looks unnatural or forced. Be comfortable and your date would automatically be comfortable.  Make sure you are relaxed and stress-free. Remember, it is now that the two of you would establish whether or not you wish to continue the relationship or not. Being relaxed would allow you to think freely and have open hearted conversation.  

Lastly, enjoy your hangout/date to the fullest. It is only when you enjoy the time spend with your crush that you miss your crush and want to meet them again. Remember, no date is better than a boring date!!! So just feel free and enjoy - who knows both of you could click together!